Bachelor Party

[UFWildcat]

A good buddy of mine is having his bachelor party this Saturday. We have decided to go down to Tampa for all the festivities. The problem is, is that he's led a very sheltered life. He's "discussed" with his fiance and they both agreed not to do anything "naughty" (strip clubs, dancers, etc) He has never been to one.

Now correct me if I'm wrong but doesn't this go against the "American Dream" as far as bachelor partys go?

I'd love to here what you guys think.

[COWBOYBLUE]

Well heck thats takes all the fun out of it. Piece of advice"sneak him into a club"it's all in good fun.

[Will Lavender]

I realize I'm strange, but I didn't have a bachelor party. Never been to a strip club and never had a desire to go to one. Not my kind of thing.

My wife would have been devastated had my friends put that together. And that's what I would worry about -- are you in any way messing with the happiness (at least in the short term) of their marriage? My wife would have forgiven me, I'm sure, but man I just could not have done anything like that to her.

I realize that's a lame response and totally unmanly, but that's my take.

And I would hope this guy's "American dream" is a bit more serious than a trip to a strip club. :icon_mrgreen:

[Littlemeyer]

Everybody's different, I suppose. I've been to several bachelor parties, and not one has included strippers, dancers, etc.

Mine was simple. Cabin at the lake, acoustic guitars, couple of bottles of wine for those who wanted it. THAT was my american dream. :big_grin:

Whatever you decide to do, be careful and have a great time! I can't wait to go to Tampa next year for the SEC tournament.

(Still looking forward to going to Amelia Island this summer, too. If I don't forget, I'll PM you closer to time. Maybe get some lunch one day or something. Nothing better than being in a foreign state and chillin' with a fellow UK fan. :icon_lol::thumbup:)

[BigBlue75]

Why don't you just respect their wishes and have a "safe" bachelor party like they want? I'm sure you can come up with something that will be worthwhile but won't violate his promise to his bride-to-be.

If it means that much to you, you can always get together with the guys at some later date after the wedding.

[UFWildcat]

My wife would have been devastated had my friends put that together. And that's what I would worry about -- are you in any way messing with the happiness (at least in the short term) of their marriage?

This is the jist of the whole thing. He's basically watching his back so to not cause any headaches down the road. We by no means are going to force him to do anything.

I just want to kind of shake it up. Throw him a couple of curve balls. ;)

[surveyor]

I realize I'm strange, but I didn't have a bachelor party. Never been to a strip club and never had a desire to go to one. Not my kind of thing.

My wife would have been devastated had my friends put that together. And that's what I would worry about -- are you in any way messing with the happiness (at least in the short term) of their marriage? My wife would have forgiven me, I'm sure, but man I just could not have done anything like that to her.

I realize that's a lame response and totally unmanly, but that's my take.

And I would hope this guy's "American dream" is a bit more serious than a trip to a strip club. :icon_mrgreen:

Everybody's different, I suppose. I've been to several bachelor parties, and not one has included strippers, dancers, etc.

Mine was simple. Cabin at the lake, acoustic guitars, couple of bottles of wine for those who wanted it. THAT was my american dream. :big_grin:

Whatever you decide to do, be careful and have a great time! I can't wait to go to Tampa next year for the SEC tournament.

(Still looking forward to going to Amelia Island this summer, too. If I don't forget, I'll PM you closer to time. Maybe get some lunch one day or something. Nothing better than being in a foreign state and chillin' with a fellow UK fan. :icon_lol::thumbup:)

I'll add to this, as I'm not much into the mandatory strip-club-bachelor party thing.

My friends hauled me out for my bachelor party. Due to scheduling and logistics, the party was the night before the wedding (terrible!). My wife didn't mind if we went to a strip club, but it wasn't a priority for me. I was fine not going. I've been to numerous clubs for other bachelor parties and found them to be depressing places. Guys sitting around the bar (just as many were alone as were in groups) ogling girls CERTAIN that these girls liked ONLY them. The depressing part is the guys who are there alone - on a Friday/Saturday night.
Fortunately for me, I was plastered by the time we made it to the club. Within a half hour a buddy took me back home.

If strip clubs ain't his thing or he AND his fiance would be uncomfortable with it, I'd push for something else.

[UFWildcat]

Everybody's different, I suppose. I've been to several bachelor parties, and not one has included strippers, dancers, etc.

Mine was simple. Cabin at the lake, acoustic guitars, couple of bottles of wine for those who wanted it. THAT was my american dream. :big_grin:

Whatever you decide to do, be careful and have a great time! I can't wait to go to Tampa next year for the SEC tournament.

(Still looking forward to going to Amelia Island this summer, too. If I don't forget, I'll PM you closer to time. Maybe get some lunch one day or something. Nothing better than being in a foreign state and chillin' with a fellow UK fan. :icon_lol::thumbup:)

Acoustic guitars? Do you play?

And yes, lunch would be cool. :thumbup:

[UFWildcat]

Why don't you just respect their wishes and have a "safe" bachelor party like they want? I'm sure you can come up with something that will be worthwhile but won't violate his promise to his bride-to-be.

If it means that much to you, you can always get together with the guys at some later date after the wedding.

Like I said, we aren't going to force him to do anything. We are going to get dinner and then head to channelside. A pretty cool place if you ever visit Tampa. It's got a really cool bowling alley and some cool bars and clubs.

Besides, he's a light weight and will probably be out by like 2. Then...who knows...;):icon_mrgreen:

[Littlemeyer]

Acoustic guitars? Do you play?

And yes, lunch would be cool. :thumbup:

I try. I'm decent enough to impress my friends in settings like that, especially if they HAVE been drinking. :big_grin:

We've got a tradition. Every time somebody in our "circle" gets married, me and another friend "write" a wedding song for them. Basically, we just pick a current hot single and satirize it with lyrics highlighting our friend's life, with special attention paid to his short-comings. :icon_mrgreen: I provide the music, and my friend provides the vocals.

Great times. :big_grin:

[UFWildcat]

I've been to numerous clubs for other bachelor parties and found them to be depressing places. Guys sitting around the bar (just as many were alone as were in groups) ogling girls CERTAIN that these girls liked ONLY them. The depressing part is the guys who are there alone - on a Friday/Saturday night.

This used to be my view on strip clubs also...

Until I went to Mons Venus. :thumbup::icon_mrgreen::icon_lol:

[Will Lavender]

Until I went to Mons Venus. :thumbup::icon_mrgreen::icon_lol:

I think I have a few of those in my freezer. They're like a Klondike, right?

[UFWildcat]

I try. I'm decent enough to impress my friends in settings like that, especially if they HAVE been drinking. :big_grin:

We've got a tradition. Every time somebody in our "circle" gets married, me and another friend "write" a wedding song for them. Basically, we just pick a current hot single and satirize it with lyrics highlighting our friend's life, with special attention paid to his short-comings. :icon_mrgreen: I provide the music, and my friend provides the vocals.

Great times. :big_grin:

That's awesome!

I've been playing for cough cough a few years now. Not very good but I've been stepping up lately. Tired of not being able to play something for my friends or guests.

[UFWildcat]

I think I have a few of those in my freezer. They're like a Klondike, right?

:icon_lol::icon_mrgreen: LMAO :icon_mrgreen::icon_lol:

[UK Chic]

Hey, thought I would weigh in on this one. :icon_lol:

First, I guess if the bride-to-be minds and it will cause ripples later when she finds out, you guys are safe to stick with the bars. With that being said, a bachelor party is just that....a BACHELOR night out doing BACHELOR things. Not like he will go once and then be 'addicted' to return every day after his marriage. But then again, I am pretty laid back about these kind of things.

Second, I think going out of town for a fun time is perfect! Sometimes when you are at 'home' and have your surroundings so familiar, you do not let loose.

Have a blast! Do not take pictures and have a few good stories to share at their 10 year anniversary dinner. :icon_smile:

[UFWildcat]

Hey, thought I would weigh in on this one. :icon_lol:

First, I guess if the bride-to-be minds and it will cause ripples later when she finds out, you guys are safe to stick with the bars. With that being said, a bachelor party is just that....a BACHELOR night out doing BACHELOR things. Not like he will go once and then be 'addicted' to return every day after his marriage. But then again, I am pretty laid back about these kind of things.

Second, I think going out of town for a fun time is perfect! Sometimes when you are at 'home' and have your surroundings so familiar, you do not let loose.

Have a blast! Do not take pictures and have a few good stories to share at their 10 year anniversary dinner. :icon_smile:

:thumbup: Thanks (and there will be no pictures :))

[trublu]

UK Chic seems to have some wise advise. Keep in mind that we ladies like to have a good time too. It's fun for the girls to go out and stuff a few bucks in a g-string too. Do you have any male revue clubs?

[UFWildcat]

Do you have any male revue clubs?

Don't know about that stuff...:shrug1:

[Matt Dillon]

Respect the lifestyle they've chosen for themselves. Whether you think he'd secretly enjoy it or not is beside the point. They've agreed on no stripclubs. If you're truly his friend, you won't put him in a postion to break that agreement.

[tauzreborn]

I am headed to New Orleans for my bachelor party at the end of March. I have no desire to go to the strip clubs, but I know my buddies will. Luckily, my future brother-in-law is going and we both love to play cards. When everyone heads to the clubs -we will be cabbing it to the Casino.

My fiance would prefer me not go, but she would get over it. Not going would make the next month of engagement a whole lot smoother if I could honestly say I kept my eyes off the skin.

[The Old School JPS]

If you don't want to take him to a strip joint, you can hire a stripper or two to come to your place for him instead.

Just sayin'. :beer:

Seriously, use your best judgment to divine what he would like the most, and do it. If he'd love to play chess all night, play chess all night. It's his wedding and his night.